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When I learned to relax and be myself, I learned I could be happier.

I learned an important lesson about myself some time ago. That when I relax and just let myself be, to be myself, then I begin to feel more natural, freer, and happier. I also feel a greater willingness to accept failure, learn from it, and keep plugging on, helping as many people as I can in the process with the lessons I have learned.

As my self-confidence grows, so does my ability to acknowledge my weaknesses and realize how they can hurt and help me. Facing this vulnerability and being authentic with the people around me has become one of my life’s passions. And the willingness to be true to myself, has helped me feel more confident in responding to those with whom I have differing points of view. And that has actually made those relationships stronger too because it fosters mutual respect and understanding. And sometimes, my points of view change as I realize I’m wrong.

I’m scared to grow old but also looking forward to it so much.

Bring life on! Carpe diem friends.

Is it singing? Is it music? Both, it’s beatbox!

This fellow Tom Thum is an Australian beatbox artist who gave a delightful performance at TEDx Sydney last week. I’ve watched the video three times since I first saw it (and it has 3.3 million views on YouTube and counting!). On a day when I was feeling down, Tom’s upbeat nature, wacky humour, stage style and most of all, his quirky sounds, made me happy. Following your passion and bringing others joy in the process. Ain’t nothing better than that!

Drunk on life

Ever since a crazy, frightening plane ride into Bogota a few weeks ago, I’ve been contemplating the prospect of death at an early age. The thought that keeps coming to my head is wow, if I died tomorrow, I would feel like I have no regrets, few wasted moments, so many beautiful adventures, much love and happiness, and have learned so much about people and the planet we live on, what scares me, what drives me. But for now, there is so much I have left to experience and for as long as I am alive, I am going to drink life as if its a glass of fine wine and the bottle never goes empty. DRUNK on life! Have a great day friends!

The thoughts I had when a scary plane ride got me thinking about my own death.

Ever since that crazy plane ride into Bogota a few weeks ago, I’ve been contemplating the prospect of death at an early age. The thought that keeps coming to my head is wow, if I died tomorrow, I would feel like I have no regrets, few wasted moments, so many beautiful adventures, much love and happiness, and have learned so much about people and the planet we live on, what scares me, what drives me. But most of all, that there is so much I have left to experience and I am going to drink life as if its a glass of fine wine and the bottle never goes empty. DRUNK on life! Have a great day friends!

What’s important to you?

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A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.. The sand is everything else—the small stuff.

‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and mow the lawn.

Take care of the golf balls first—the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

What carpe diem means to me

The beach always inspires me and gets my mind whirring. Today I was thinking about how our time on Earth is filled with moments that can be sad or happy, painful or pleasureful. We tend to welcome the good and shun the bad but without one we cannot have the other. We need failure to appreciate success, right? It has taken me years to appreciate this but the realisation has changed my life for the better and helped me become more resilient, able to bounce back from disappointment, face fear and live my dreams. I’m learning to live as if each day was my last – appreciating the miracles around me – but more importantly planning for the future with purpose and passion. Truly living with heart and soul – this is what ‘carpe diem’ has come to mean for me. What does it mean for you?

Diani Beach, Coast Province, Kenya